lately I´ve been wondering more and more about the existence of any real body ideal in the blogosphere. to put this first I am not very fond of the idea of ideals myself as they don´t leave room for individual aspects of what might be appreciated if the common sense didn´t manipulate one´s impressions. of course I am not free from being influenced by ideals myself, but lately I found the frequency of comments concerning nothing but weight and body incredibly tiring.
due to comments I read on my and other blogs that vary from harsh criticism (of being fat) to genuine worry (of being too skinny or unhealthy) I figure people must have an ideal or at least an idea in mind when adressing such messages to the author of a blog in a very public manner.
of course the act of putting oneself on a stage in one or the other way cultivates vulnerability and since most bloggers allow the appearance of said comments it shows they are well aware of that fact along with possessing the mental balance to deal with verbal attacks.
ironically enough, personally I got both kinds of comments since putting pictures of myself up here.
I might be skinnier now than I was in january but that is because I always am in summer due to massive fruit lust and a very busy schedule lately. my eating habits have always been affected of my state of mind and lately eating just hasn´t been a priority.
I am still body and health conscious and really, if I lose or gain a pound than that´s what it is.
in my opinion that´s it with most girls- and bloggers- out there.
one´s weight might vary but I didn´t come across a case of a girl gaining or losing half of her body weight in the blogging process so maybe people should concentrate on an overall appearance rather than giving so much importance on each and every single pound.
of course the act of putting oneself on a stage in one or the other way cultivates vulnerability and since most bloggers allow the appearance of said comments it shows they are well aware of that fact along with possessing the mental balance to deal with verbal attacks.
ironically enough, personally I got both kinds of comments since putting pictures of myself up here.
I might be skinnier now than I was in january but that is because I always am in summer due to massive fruit lust and a very busy schedule lately. my eating habits have always been affected of my state of mind and lately eating just hasn´t been a priority.
I am still body and health conscious and really, if I lose or gain a pound than that´s what it is.
in my opinion that´s it with most girls- and bloggers- out there.
one´s weight might vary but I didn´t come across a case of a girl gaining or losing half of her body weight in the blogging process so maybe people should concentrate on an overall appearance rather than giving so much importance on each and every single pound.
really, if I gave as much attention to my weight as some people do you might very well call that a disorder and believe me, I have other things to deal with.
h&m dress and shoes. only vest. random jewelry.
h&m dress and shoes. only vest. random jewelry.
73 comments:
beauuuutiful vest
I agree...the body ideal in the blogosphere is unrealistic
especially since bloggers like Susie and Karla, who're thin by all accounts, get commenters saying she's fat.. it's ridiculous
beautiful vest (2)
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Hi Isa! You're gorgeous as always.
I agree with you Isa,
while I believe it is important to stay healthy...it really isn't an issue that readers have to involve themselves in. Besides, you look great: you always do: and hell, sometimes life is hugely busy and eating becomes forgotten. It is only natural, what is un-unatural however is people's obsessions with other people's weight. I have readers tell me I'm "too chubby" but they also throw "anorexic bitch" into comments. Its a lose-lose situation. Fashion blogs are about appreciating the clothes, not how small/large someone's waist is. Besides anyone who can sit at their computer and criticize someone else behind an anonymous tag needs to seriously look at themselves first.
Great outfit. The vest is delicious.
xxx
Well written.
Your hair looks so lovely and such a pretty photo! I think people are just getting more and more vicious and judgemental and they should just mind their own business instead of wasting their time on badmouthing others.
Wow! I can't believe people would leave comments about your weight, that's so mean.
By the way, I love those boots, they must be so comfortable :P
I always enjoy looking at the pictures of your beautiful outfits.
Sorry to hear that people are so rude. I can understand your frustration--I'm thin myself and have attracted similar "concerns" and negative comments about my weight. Good for you for being comfortable with who you are and not being overly concerned with other's opinions of how you should look!
I love your blog! I'm also thin and understand your frustration! You look great don't, let haters get to you, your perfect just the way God made you....
you are so gorgeous . your makeup is flawless and this dress is great
the studded vest is to die for . it all goes together perfectly
styled perefectly
ohyeah lol
i got called fat too .wow im only 108 so thats pretty funny to me .
but these commentors speak out of jealousy . you look amazing
You know, if it makes you feel any better, the thought of analyzing your body shape didn't even cross my mind... I live on fruit, yogourt and tea/coffee in the summer as well, as do others I know. It seems to be a natural thing. As is being busy and therefore sometimes forgetting important things... it just means you're super passionate about what your do.
It's grossly unfair that anyone would comment like that, but, really, it has very little to do with you... I mean, if they're analyzing your body in the first place, they must be comparing themselves, right? Insulting you is a simple defense mechanism against their own insecurities.
Ignore them. Selective absorption of comments is a must in the fashion blogging world (actually, the world in general, but here especially).
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Oh, and you looks stunning, as always. I can't think of anyone pulling off that outfit so flawlessly as you do.
Beautiful hair, skin, vest, and OH MY THOSE BOOTS.
you hit it dead on..such a common issue and its totally exhausting for women today
its awful
but gorgeous outfit darling..loving it!! cute dress and im loving the little boots
-cma
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O.K. after trying and successfully reading your post(little font but don't worry..I actually like it because it's original) but let me tell you...you look perfectly fine! Do NOT EVER listen to those haters! You are so beautiful and those people hating on you just wish they could be as beautiful as you are! What's even worse is that not only are you beautiful but you are also incredibly stylish so it's the perfect combination! I love your shoes and the floral. Keep doing what you are doing and don't worry about what those no life people say. Literally they have no lives because if they did...they would have better things to do then notice and comment on such a no big deal thing such as your weight.
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du siehst einfach nur toll aus....
Dieses Kleid in der Kombination mit der Nietenweste, den Tights und den Wedges ist dir super gelungen!!!!
X
i am trying to lose some weight myself. Just to tone up a bit. And am very concerned what people will think. But you know what, do whatever you like. And besides you're not that skinny. Ive seen your blogs a year ago, and what i see is a young girl. I believe you're going through some body changes now, now that you're a woman. You are so pretty Isa. You're not skin and bone. Keep it up. And you look good.
damn if you do, damn if you don't. It is the world who has a body issue or weight issue. If you're comfortable and happy good for you.
have a great day!
Ich kann nicht verstehen das Leute sagen du wärst zu dünn. Jeder Körper ist anders gebaut und wenn du zur Zeit Stress hast, ists doch normal das man vielleicht etwas abnimmt.
Lg :)
PS: Tolles Outfit
Ich denke im Internet ist die Hemmschwelle einfach viel niedriger, jemandem, den man sowieso nicht persönlich kennt, so etwas an den Kopf zu werfen. Es gibt ja lauter Leute, die einfach nur kommentieren, weil sie kommentieren wollen - ohne dass sie etwas sinnvolles zu sagen haben.
Ich glaube nicht, dass jemand wildfremdes dich auf der Straße mit den Worten: "Ohje, du bist aber fett/dünn" ansprechen würde, oder?
Also einfach nicht darauf hören, was du aber glücklicherweise offensichtlich eh nicht tust. Du bist schlank, ja - but who cares? Geht nur dich etwas an!
Wow, okay ich kann nicht glauben was ich da lese. ERNSTHAFT??? Also ob das jemanden was angeht! Plus: You look so healthy cute and wonderful.
Habe ich eigentlich schon mal gesagt, dass du einen wirklich besonderen uns fabelhaften Schreibstil hast. Wenn ja: Ich musste es einfach nochmal sagen. Macht Spaß deine Texte zu lesen. Obwohl der Inhalt von diesem post mich eher erschüttert!
Bleib wie du bist!!!
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wundervolles kleid
You look adorable! I totally love the dress and the vest<3
And I totally agree with you when it comes to body and weight issues..I even think that ideal changes me a bit..I start to think I should be skinnier...
Super schönes Outfit!
such a great look !
love it
<3
I really love that dress.
And I really don´t get the point why some people say for example about karla that she´s fat. SThey think that everybody wants to be some skinny model who doesn´t aet at all.
Different people have different bone structure and it´s fact.
And I think you are totally fine, so don´t listen to the stupid haters :)
Tereza
I like the light in these.
looks kind of surreal. perfect with you in it.
you remind me of how I always imagined the protagonists in books. fragile yet strong, mysterious in a way.
hope I don´t sound like a creep now.
I agree. It's awful how people can call other fat when they're perfectly healthy and just normal. I mean, not everyone has to be a bag of bones. and as for me, I'm not skinny at all, but that doesn't mean I'm fat. It's just that I got it from my family and the most important thing is that I eat healthy, I do work out and so on.
And if it matters, I think you're bloody gorgeous just the way you are.
please say you´re a model.
if not, start.
like NOW.
yep you probably should become a model as starving as you look.
look at those bird legs.
eat a sandwich
As somebody who has followed your blog for a while I will admit I have recently become concerned as you do seem to have lost a lot of weight and have come out with comments such as you 'forget to eat' and talk about your mother worrying you are anorexic because you don't eat enough and hate to feel full. In no way am I trying to criticise however I do genuinely feel worried about you and remember you used to talk about needing to lose weight when you have always been very slim. I say this as somebody who has overcome an eating disorder and your comments about not eating in summer and not wanting to feel full are how I feel and justified my not eating much, however I now realise (after the damage I did to my health such as my periods stopping) that you must make sure you are eating enough. I too didn't look dangerously skinny and looked noraml however I was underweight for my height (eating 3 small and fat free meals a day) and wasn't eating enough to keep me healthy. Take care Isa, and I say this not just to you but anyone else who this might apply to X
love your outfit! you look pretty :D
you have to have a certain height for being a model.she's tiny.
louise: haha, that´s what I was going to say.
thank you for taking me into consideration though, anon. ;)
the most important thing it´s feel ok with our body and mind :)
nice dress
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Liebe Grüße!
i completely agree on so many levels, eating disorders have always been a concern in the fashion world, everyone has a different body type some are naturally petite and some curvy. i accept everyones differences.
i am not a stranger to being critizied about my body either it hurts to be called to skinny, or anorexic. everyone needs to act more like a hippie an accept the world.
you're beautiful and healthy, and that is all that counts.
your looks are always sooo airy and wonderful
i love these boots!
i absolutely love this outfit! esp the dress and vest! you look beautiful as always!!!
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the blogging ideals are sometimes indeed absurd, but i know blogs like liebemarlene and other girls who are not the most skinny persons but DEFINETELY not fat, and they wear themselves with proud! i'm not the skinniest girl in the world either and although i'd like to lose some weight i don't really care if i cann just wear clothes that fit my figure.
i don't even understand why people would say anything mean to bloggers who are just writing about what they love, it's really uncalled for
xx
Brilliantly written, and absolutely true.
you look lovely here, definitely not too skinny. its obvious you stick to your natural body shape, whether thats skinny or not - it suits you!
xxx
yeah but the height is all that your lacking to model!
irember a post when some creep said your thighs seem big. ha! oh, you can't make it right, can you? when you're naturally build slim, everyone thinks they have the right to make comments about your figure. when you do eat there suspect you to be bulmic, if you don't your anorexic.. No offence, but its cosidered rude to make bad comments about the body of bigger people. but when someone is skinny noone holds back on saying negative things..not fair!
PS: you look absolutely beautiful
@louise: we got it. and I don´t intend to be a model.
@lilly: exactly. critizicing someone for their bodies always must be done with a lot of tact, even if it is for health reasons. but critizicing healthy, good looking people seems so odd to me, especially when the comments are contradictory. and.. thank you!
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I think people sometimes just comment for commenting sake and dont think about whether it's appropriate, kind, necessary, etc. I totally understand the being busy with other things and losing or gaining a pound here and there. But you look perfectly healthy and your style is lovely as ever!
this is why I don't post my outfits on my blog ;) I have no time for haters!
what is wrong with louise do you have height issues?
look at isabelle and how gorgeous she is and all ur rambling about is height. btw a lot of models arent even pretty because its all about being tall.
I would rather see you on a catwalk Isa!
@tahda: yes, busy bee, not time for food or haters. ;)
@anon: haha, thanks for being defensive but I don´t think I am going to hit a catwalk any time soon. I actually had modelling offers before though so it´s not only about height. maybe on the runway but definitely not for the pictures.
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gorgeous, very gucci supermodel! summer is just too much fun to do any work, i cant bring myself to :) xo
i love the dress and you are adorable your dress is so cute!!
You look beautiful. And i hate that people in the blog world can be like that.
xx
Agree completely
You're gorgeous! And people shouldn't be so narrow minded or nit picky.
I hate that bloggers are so eager to pick faults in other people.
Love the look
wow, du siehst echt super aus in diesem outfit!!!
und einen tollen blog hast du noch dazu!
very nice outfit.
comments are part of the man-in--the-mirror effect. just a projection of what people feel about themselves ;)
Serena from Barcelona
I love your outfit!
ewwwwwwwwwwww haters! i am so shocked i had NO idea you were coping this from anon's :( tear. i have been lucky enough to only have around 5 hater comments so far...but each still hurts so good on you for toughing up to them! i think you are GORGEOUS and have a knockout figure! and heck it's human nature to gain a tad in winter and lose it summer? DER!
keep being YOU honey love and don't change!
love bel xxxxxxxxxx
this look is so lovely
I adore this look..the black zipped boots and floral dress are gorgeous xx
It sucks that people make mean comments about weight on blogs, but I think a lot of bloggers who begin for fun don't truly realize what they are getting into. You are putting yourself out there to be looked at and commented on. It's the same crap that celebrity's deal with from comments on the internet and every tabloid paper out there telling them they should loose/gain weight. The more popular you get, the more nasty comments there are.
While it sucks, I think the blogger has a responsibility to themselves and others (as do fashion mags) not to glamorize the lack of food they need to eat. Forgetting to eat and talking about how you only eat fruit and yogurt is not particularly healthy and because you are thin and pretty, people get offended by that. It is like you are showing off your self control around food. If you don't want people to comment on it, don't talk about it.
People are jealous.
I'm suprised I haven't been called fat considering out of all the bloggers out there (fashion-wise) I'm among the "biggest."
I think you look great - your body is the ideal for fashion so just appreciate it and don't let those haters get to you.
Anyhoo, Good luck on your test!!
BTW - I also agree with some anon people here that it could be that people are concerned and very untactful at expressing it.
Certainly, not eating very much isn't a great way to live life - but if you truly aren't hungry, why force it? If you know you are healthy - AND you know your relationship with food is healthy - then that's the truth and that's all that should ever matter.
People will always think whatever they want, unfortunately. I'm about to blog about the juice cleanse I did - lost 9 pounds in 8 days and I feel great. It's gonna bring on some dissaproving comments though ("you didn't eat for a week! OMG") but now that I am done, I can take it :P
Love the way you did this look. I love the tights with the booties and the dress with the vest. You've got it going on sista!
xoxo,
Jessica
das outfit haut mich um! und die location am hafen ist auch nicht schlecht !
Fabulous outfit, great post, I just hate all that negativity!
nicola xx
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hotness.
scheint so, als hätten wir den gleichen Schuhgeschmack. auf deiner ersten seite, habe ich gleich zwei exemplare entdeckt, die ich auch besitze ;)
I love the pairing of that dress with the vest!
you look hot! love your thoughts on this, and i agree x
just discovered your blog and am in love with it already :)
funny that i chose to read this very post of yours. the size of the font is sure making my eyes go o_o to -_- squinty!
anyhow...i've gotta say...people will criticize no matter what. if you're fat- they make fun of you and if you're skinny then you're deemed anorexic. it just never ends. as long as you know you're healthy and happy, that is all that matters. please keep posting!
xoxo
Lovely!!!
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so this is a really cute outfit. i love the bracelet!
I think you look fabulous and healthy! Just do what feels right :) Love your blog so much!
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